This
entry is going to be a little about the new book and a lot about life in
general. When I got past the first few chapters in Destiny, I found that my
main character wasn’t quite the standard good guy. Now, I don’t think he was
bad at all, but he was faced with hard decisions like we all are. Sometimes you
have to do the wrong thing to get what you want, but how do you know when to do
that? Is wrong always wrong, or are there exceptions? I think finding the
answer to that and owning your actions is part of becoming an adult, and Eric
learned the same lesson I did a long time ago.
Sometimes life isn’t about how right
or wrong you are. It’s about what you’re willing to be wrong for. I know what
you might be thinking. For some, wrong is always wrong. I get that. No
justification you make will turn a wrong into a right, but no one is perfect.
If you’re going to be imperfect, then maybe you should pick what you’re willing
to be imperfect for. Who or what would you lie for, fight for, and even die
for? Whose life would you destroy to make the world right for someone else?
It’s a hard question, and I would like to tell you there’s always a right path,
but that’s not necessarily true. At times, you have to get your hands dirty.
Sometimes when you look into the mirror, you might not even be able to
recognize the person staring back at you because of what you’ve done. The key
isn’t to be perfect, though. It’s weighing your actions and knowing that it was
all worth it. Every wrong eventually catches up to you. Can you live with the
consequences, and maybe most importantly, will you try to make things right in
the long run? That’s what growing up is really about to me. It’s not about
being able to tell right from wrong, always doing the right thing, or even
learning to play fair. It’s about learning to pick your battles. Nine times out
of ten, you should do the right thing and be the nice guy/girl because the
consequences of your actions just aren’t worth it, not to mention that you
might just be destroying someone else’s life with your selfishness. What about
that other ten percent of the time, though? What about when doing the wrong
thing can give you or someone else exactly what you deserve? Maybe the wrong
thing will produce even better results for everyone in the long run. Know when
to act, when to be still, and when to apologize. That’s the last part of the
lesson you learn when growing up. Even if you have a perfectly good reason for
doing the wrong thing, when it all catches up to you, the most important part
of being a man is admitting that you’re wrong. That doesn’t mean you have to
regret your actions, and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to let someone run
you down for them, but it does mean that you have to acknowledge who you’ve
stepped on to get to where you are and try to make it right. Sometimes we have
to do some horrible things to get the right results for the people we love, our
kids, friends, or even just to get ahead in work. In the right circumstances,
that’s understandable. It’s never okay, and it will come with problems later on, but ask yourself two questions
before going into something you know is wrong. The first is why am I doing
this, and the second is who is this for. Answer honestly, and you’ll know
exactly what you should do.
To sum it up, I’m not encouraging
anyone to do the wrong thing. I’m simply saying this. You might have to step on
someone else to get the person you love or get the job that will give you a
better life. That might be worth it and completely understandable, but don’t let
that absolve you of your responsibility to the person you just stepped on. Be the
person who goes after what’s meant to be theirs, but also be the one who has
enough wisdom to take a step back and say you’re sorry. Otherwise, you might
just find that you’re the bad guy in your own story.
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