What Women Really Want

   I’m going to talk about something today that I have very little knowledge about, but even so, I’ve managed to observe a few simple things that us guys overlook about the women we love, and I thought that I would share them with everyone. Keep in mind that I’m nowhere near an expert when it comes to women.

   The first thing that women really want that we tend to drop the ball on is communication. Now, you might say, “me and my girlfriend/wife talk all the time,” but it’s not so much about the amount of time you talk but how much you retain. A woman doesn’t talk just to hear herself . . . or at least most women don’t. She talks to you because she wants you to know more about her and what interests her. If you don’t listen and retain what she’s saying, then the entire conversation is useless. Communication works both ways, but I’ve noticed that us guys drop the ball on this one a lot more than women do. If you want to know her in every way possible, it starts with shutting out all the other noise and hearing her only.

   The second thing I’m going to discuss is something that some people are a little sensitive about . . . the bedroom. Now guys, I know you think that you’re awesome in bed, but I have bad news. You can cut however awesome you think you are in the bedroom in half, which means that you need to start making twice the effort that you’re making. Women have needs just like we do, and if you don’t fully take the time to take care of those needs, sex can become a irritating routine for her. If it does, you’ll find yourself slowly drifting apart. Now, I know that sex doesn’t equal love, but if she doesn’t see you making the effort to satisfy her needs, don’t be surprised when she stops fulfilling yours or you find her in the bed with your neighbor Ted!

   Finally, see her. No, seriously . . . See her! Women say a lot of things, and all of that matters, but what she does is truly who she is. What she tells people is who she wants to be perceived as. The little things that she chooses to do when you’re the only two around is who she really is. Pick up on these cues, and try to take an interest in everything that she does. It could be a crummy movie that she loves but never talks about, it could be something new that she’s wearing, or it could simply be a sigh that screams of dissatisfaction. Learn to read the woman you love and react accordingly. Seeing her goes deeper than just that, though. You should make her feel like she’s the only person you see in a crowded room. If you do that, you’ll always be the only person she sees in the room, too.

   So in conclusion, my experience doesn’t tell me much that we all shouldn’t already know. Women want exactly what we do. We want to be noticed, listened to, and satisfied. We want to know that the women in our lives care about us more than anyone else, so why is it so hard for us to do the exact thing that we want from her? Now, you may be thinking that I’m oversimplifying things, and maybe I am, but I do know this. The little things like listening, kisses, understanding, and surprises go a long way in making hers and your life so much easier. It’s not rocket science. Just think about how you would ideally want to be treated, and treat her even better than that.

   Anyway, I know this post might have been a little random, but I thought that it might be fun to point out the shortcomings of my gender and myself included. Don’t get too cocky, though, ladies because I might just do a blog about what men really want one day, and we’re a lot more complicated than any of you know . . . well, kind of . . . okay, not really. Thanks for reading, and don’t forget to pick up Strange Visions: The Storm on December 14^th.